I hate them.
No, I really, really hate them.
I hate that groups sometimes get to feeling that they need to reaffirm their existence by laying into other people/ groups/ subcultures. Now maybe this is because I’ve never really belonged to a clique, in fact I seem to spend the majority of my life fascinated and watching particular groups, some of which are cliquish and some of which are not but manage to be twisted enough to gain my fascination.
So, heres a newsflash, I was not popular at school (big surprise huh?) I was the girl sat in the corner with the book watching everyone. So I had an interesting take on the various groups and cliques in my year group. I had labels and nicknames for them all (pre-cursor to the Big Beardy anyone?), hell I still watch all the groups and cliques and give nicknames to everyone. So, obviously I’m not going to like the particular groups of people that I wasn’t part of myself, right? I mean that seems to be a logic that tends to get played with a lot… Bollocks is that logic.
Not being a part of a group means you get to appreciate the nuances of all the different groups, and it means you spot bitchy cliques a mile off. Until you end up stuck in the middle of one that started operating subtley anyway. Goths not liking Jocks not liking Greebos not liking Townies is crap as far as I’m concerned, media perpetuated stereotypes that idiots fall for. So it really bothers me when friends start operating within those stereotypes. It really really bugs me when cliques start forming around me (not as in, I’m in the middle of a clique look at popular me) I don’t understand the attraction of an existence based on those you negate.
Maybe I’m just too used to being outside a circle of people to appreciate the attraction, but to be honest I’d rather be a sad loner than define myself based on hate, dislike and general bitching.
Of course it should be pointed out that I’m no saint myself and I bitch like a trouper, but to participate in the cliquey exclusion of particular people, or to say ‘oh they aren’t my type of people because their stereotype doesn’t like my stereotype’, gods I hope I never do that.