I mean, I’ve said to a lot of Younger Millenials, Zoomers and whatever we’re calling the generation between them…there is one right? No? Just Millenials and then Zoomers and because I’m only just a Millenial I think that there seems like there’s another one? Right, gotcha.
Anyway I’ve said that I hope they get to be more open and I think they do quite honestly. There isn’t the stigma across society as a whole about being queer, yes I’m aware that when you push at the boundaries of that and you’re not a ‘normal’ gay boy, lesbian girl, transman, transwoman then you get push back. Believe me, I’ve been bisexual for a while now and we’re still seen as edge cases. But what I want to say is that it’s getting better, we’re getting there and as we do don’t be fooled by Respectability Politics.
We do not and we have never had to look like them.
Expect push back, anticipate violence but do not accept it. Be yourself, be out and proud and quietly, confidently demand acceptance. Prepare to be hounded, prepare to be assaulted. Live your extra life as Brad Mondo says and educate yourself as to our history but be as puzzled as he is by why he has ever had to come out. We are normal, we’ve been here forever, and no we didn’t suddenly start out in NYC in 1969, get to know about the Scientific-Humanitarian Committee in 19th century Germany and learn your history.
It’s getting better and we are getting better, we know ourselves. We’re here and we’re queer and we will stay. Love your Family and look for the edges as it gets better. It’s easier and easier for me to be an out bisexual woman (and not just because of the titilation factor that I was brought up knowing was my get out clause) but it’s still hard for my girlfriend to be an out transwoman.
I think that if I were a teenager today I would have a much easier time being out at school (maybe not so much with my family but who knows). If I was overt about my questioning of my gender then I might have a harder time, though given my conclusion was that I was cis that might have fitted right in. I don’t know though, given that the words are there then maybe the fact I was questioning the roles of my gender in society would have been more obvious to me. I think in many ways the genderqueer zoomers are having a similar time to me as a bisexual millenial and I had a much easier time than a lesbian from Gen X and I don’t think any of us had as bad a time as the gay boomers did. That’s not to say that we’re any of us having it easy, but it’s getting better, it will keep getting better, look back at Lottie Hahm being a lesbian activist in Nazi Germany, look back at Stormie Delaverie kicking off at Stonewall.
Kids, you come from a long line of gays and we are here and we’re going to get it as good for you as we can.
Be Gay, Do Crime.