I hate having to be closeted. I’ve said this before. I got really used to being open and out about ten years ago after having being in the closet being the cultural default twenty years ago. And now I’m thinking maybe we’re heading back towards the closet. For a little while at least. After the … Read More
Coming Out Stories. Gods. Sometime’s it feels that’s all you’re doing as a queer person. I certainly have written about the first time I came out before. I’ve written about how, being femme and cis it feels like I have a duty to keep coming out – there’s no real good stories, it’s just continual … Read More
I don’t have a nice concrete coming out story or gender affirmation story. I covered most of my earliest thoughts on gender and sexuality a couple of years ago. What I didn’t talk about was knowing what I didn’t want. I had heterosexuality patterned in front of me from the jump. If I think about … Read More
Oh yes. This. (Content Warning – Frank discussion of problems with my parents, mention of mental health problems) The thing is I’m 41 and I still find people with entirely open and honest relationships with their parents to be something of an oddity. If there is one thing that growing up in the eighties and … Read More
Gods I don’t even know who counts anymore. I guess the first girl I kissed, the girl on holiday because to be honest until I actually kissed her I’m not sure I was really out to myself, it was all just very theoretical at that point. When I told my best friend at the time … Read More
I’ve written before about how coming out is never one moment, it’s a continual process in a world where straight is still the default. (A slight aside here, today I accompanied a client to the doctor’s and was asked if I was a friend or partner in a situation that would not have been read … Read More
Oh wow. And is this prompt telling, ‘Post A Coming Out Story’, not ‘Your Coming Out Story’… because if you’re Queer you are always coming out. Again and again and again. Or, well, maybe it’s just me. I’m a femme, straight passing cis-woman. I remember paddling in a canoe through Louisianna swamp in 2002 and … Read More
