(Content Warning – you’ve seen the title you know what’s coming) I started this blog in my early twenties. I am now forty three. There has been turmoil about my sexuality and there have also been suicidal thoughts. To be fair I’ve mostly tried to avoid or make light of the Swamp. These days the … Read More
Coming Out Stories. Gods. Sometime’s it feels that’s all you’re doing as a queer person. I certainly have written about the first time I came out before. I’ve written about how, being femme and cis it feels like I have a duty to keep coming out – there’s no real good stories, it’s just continual … Read More
I’m coming back to a Pride Blog Challenge that I’ve done before but it’s a solid one. I’ve written about my sexuality and gender before so how am I feeling today? I’m a cis woman so my gender identity is a pretty simple thing to talk about – isn’t it? Forever I’ve been known to … Read More
And brace. Strictly has no same sex couples this season. Well maybe the celebrities asked didn’t match up for that to be a thing? I wouldn’t stress about it except that they released a statement saying it was because they wanted to return to traditional something or others… what? Values? Good old fashioned homophobia? ‘Traditional’, … Read More
I’ve always enjoyed – Why do gay guys have such good fashion sense? They really used their time in the closet. But I like my jokes to be a bit of a story; A man walks into a bar and orders three shots. “Long day?” the bartender asks. “Well… My oldest son just came out…” … Read More
The one I’ve taken back has to be Queer. I am lucky in that as a cis-woman i don’t really get the really bad slurs hurled at me, I never have. I’ve had, what, the odd ‘lesbo’ over the years. Dyke too. But I guess whereas Queer I’ve taken back almost by default I’ve deliberately … Read More
Stupid? Sort of, more, usually deployed in a dishonest/disingenuous way. The claim that ‘cis’ is a slur. People who are talking about trans people being themselves are promoting an ideological agenda are usually themselves wrapped up in their own ideology. The point is, the more we have words for something the better we can discuss … Read More
Ok this one I thought I was going to pick a universal image and get political or angry. I really don’t want to though, the current mess regarding trans guidance to schools in the UK is really upsetting me. So one that makes me cry then; This is one of the Uncle Davids. From the … Read More
Probably I’m supposed to pick something universal but this picture of Lancaster Pride makes me incredibly happy. It’s me the year that I customised some LURPS shirts to be gay. Also pictured Precious Stone, No Nickname and Essex Lass. I was so happy that Lancaster finally had a Pride and could not stop smiling. I … Read More
When I was growing up Section 28 really screwed up my adolescent coming out. Twenty years later and the fucking Tories are doing it again. The Gender recognition Act is almost 20 years old and it’s not perfect but at the moment it’s not done too badly. This year though the government wants to creep … Read More
