Category Archives: Diary


Talking to people and experiencing it for myself I am noticing that there is a difference between queer and straight expectations after a break-up. It might be men vs women but I suspect it’s actually straight vs queer. Straight break-ups require much more breaking of contact. Queer ones there’s a level of continuing contact, trying … Read More

RIP Harry Minns

I just found out a man who, if I’d given any thought to over the past few years I would have assumed was dead, died today. Aged 99, I can imagine him being disappointed he didn’t make a century actually. He was secretary at my school, well no actually, he’d retired by the time … Read More

The End of the Year Meme

1.What did you do in 2022 that you’d never done before? Got COVID. Three times. Also tried Kombucha and it was fantastic 2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I kept some of them and made a decent stab at all of them. Yes I will … Read More

How My Hands Grieve

Really early on this year I learnt something strange about myself, that when someone I know how to touch dies, my hands mourn. Dudge died before he got to my promised massage and I found that my hands could feel him. Were mapping out how to touch him, could feel were to pull back and … Read More